Sometimes, You Have to Break Up with Yourself

Hello Readers,
Neil Sedaka wrote a song called "Breaking Up is Hard to Do." He's talking about the pain he felt breaking up with the person he loves. It is equally hard breaking up with those parts of yourself that keep you down. It's really hard. It's hard realizing:

• Life is living me instead of me living it
• My comfort zone is a prison and I'm the jailer
• My highest priority is not the highest priority of purpose for my life
• I am seeking life's purpose, when it found me years ago and I denied it
• And, the beat goes on.

Too often, we give life's circumstances carte blanche in shaping what we think, are, and do in life. Life is not our master. Life is a by-product of the choices, large and small, that we make that form the tree and fruits it bears in its season. A good life is the result of tough realizations, sound judgement, and hard work based on:

• How deeply we invest thought - broadly and clearly into our life's choices
• How well we researched and/or sought wisdom from trusted, learned advisors and God, to identify value gaps in our own thinking
• How well we prepare ourself for success or recovery from failure
• How effectively and consistently we shield our minds from negative people, thoughts, and actions
• How consistently we act in our best interest instead of reacting to options, others, and outcomes
• Finally, having an unwaivering willingness to change who, what, when, where, why, and how of those limiting life ways, so we can live authentically and successfully with ourselves and others

Yes, breaking up with our limiting life ways is hard to do. However, it is the only way to make room for a healthier, limitless, and authentic life. Do the hard work, plant a strong tree, and bear good fruit for yourself and others. And, don't forget about your unique gift/talent, which figures prominently in everything you do.

Live Well,

John